Two weeks ago, after spending 5 days following my psychiatrist’s directions to do absolutely nothing but relax, sleep and rest, my depression continued to rage and grow worse. It’s never been that deep, dark and severely painful for so long. It was now becoming dangerous. I was exhausted and my coping skills were breaking down. I wanted life to end and started noting what we had in the house to do so. That’s when I knew I had to do something fast. Something my husband and I had learned two years ago during a depression nearly as bad.
The Benefits of a Safety Plan and a Pact
After the experience in 2012, my husband and I knew that, because of my being bipolar, a depression of this magnitude could happen again. We remembered the anxiety he felt when he had to leave the house and I was alone. I remembered the fear of losing control as well as the fear of being hospitalized. We had been exhausted and afraid because we didn’t have anything to guide us along.
We put together a plan, a safety net:
- I chose a hospital that has a satellite recovery center (treats psychiatric disorders as well as alcoholics and addicts). I checked it out on the Internet and printed out the web page with their address and phone number. I also made a second choice and printed it out just in case the first one is full.
- I made a pact with my husband and psychiatrist that I would inform my husband when suicidal thoughts start becoming intense and could become impulses.
- I made list of phone numbers that my husband would have to call (my psychiatrist’s office, my supervisor where I volunteer).
- I tacked my little packet to my bulletin board so it could be easily found.
Time to Go
Two and a half weeks ago, I kept my promise and told my husband that my skills were disintegrating and the suicidal thoughts were becoming dangerously close to impulses. I didn’t want to go to the recovery center, but I knew we needed the assurance that I’d be safe. My husband can’t, and shouldn’t have to, stand guard over me every minute of the day. When would he sleep? All it would take is one weak moment in that horrible suicidal depression to do irreversible damage.
I packed a couple of sets of clothes and we headed off to the hospital without anxiety. We had all the information we needed at our fingertips to get to our destination. My husband had the phone numbers he needed when he got back home.
Since it was necessary for me to go, I made up my mind that I was going to learn as much as I could for however long I had to stay instead of lamenting over the situation. I would treat it as an education about bipolar disorder and myself. Everyone experiences it differently. This was an opportunity to pick the doctors’ brains. Luckily, I had 2 psychiatrists who loved to educate patients who asked questions and wanted to learn. And since I was learning from the doctors, I now have more information to empower me to ride the waves of bipolar.
Just Another Coping Skill – the last resort
I discovered that my Safety Plan was a coping skill of last resort, but a coping skill nonetheless. It guided us through the emotional confusion when choices for my safety had to be made. I was in a safe place of my choice with professionals who truly cared. I received the treatment I needed to help relieve the depression. My husband’s mind was put at ease. The Safety Plan worked beautifully.
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